Sunday, May 31, 2009

Today's letter - outing people isn't nice, yet our government does it all the time

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

A new documentary about closeted gay politicians put the issue of "outing" on the front burner. The LA Times’ James Rainey accelerated this by talking about his 1993 outing of City Council Candidate Jackie Goldberg against the desire of her then-partner and then 8-year-old son.

Journalists generally follow a protocol of not revealing somebody’s sexual orientation without their explicit permission, since outing somebody is just too potentially damaging to them and their families.

It is nice that journalists respect this privacy, but why doesn’t our government? As long as we have two – or three – different legal statuses describing relationships in this state, it is impossible for me to be “in the closet.” My car license outs me. Filing taxes outs me. My kids’ vaccination forms out me. As long as our State forms use the terms “married” and “domestic partner” – or “husband/wife” as on EDD forms DE1 (Registration Form for Commercial Employers) and DE1-HW (Registration Form for Employers of Household Workers) STILL do – I am automatically outed whenever I fill out a government form.

The only solution is to have one set of laws describing relationships in this state. I don’t care if it is “married” or “domestic partners” but a house divided cannot stand.

Governor, I wish you would apologize for vetoing AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act that would have legalized gay marriage through the legislature. I wish you would stand with fair-minded Californians against the government meddling in personal decisions. I wish you would make the GOP get rid of Michael Steele so Republicans can be electable again.

Sincerely,

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Today's letter - the only fair and legal thing to do is to stop all marriages, and do to yourself what you would do to others

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

What should we do in the aftermath of the Supreme Court ruling on Prop 8?

You may recall that this amendment to our Constitution says that same-sex couples cannot get married in California. It does not say heterosexual couples cannot get domestic partnered in California.

The Constitution says that all people must be subject to the same laws. I think there is only one fair way to handle this: stop all marriages in California. Existing marriages will be converted to Domestic Partnerships for same-sex and opposite couples alike.

Then instead of having three laws for people, we will only have one. Government will be smaller and save money. Michael Steele will not have to worry about small businesses spending money on benefits to married people. Randy Thomasson would not have to worry about churches performing marriages.

If you really believed in equality and freedom, you would stop inequality and apartheid.

Sincerely,

Friday, May 29, 2009

Today's letter - regrets from another victim of the battle over gay marriage

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

After Tuesday’s press conference I had a coffee with one of the national reporters who covered the event, off camera and off record.

Covering this has been challenging for him because he has seen how hurtful Prop 8 is, and how thoughtless the Opponents of Equality are. While he is trained to be fair and balanced, he has started to see the denial of freedom as a media stunt, rather than the truth.

Basically, I met somebody who regrets spreading the lies and selfish policies of the Opponents of Equality, another victim of the war against the gays.

Governor, I wish you would apologize for vetoing AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act that would have legalized gay marriage through the legislature. I wish you would apologize for letting Gavin Newsome and Antonio Villaraigosa stand alone at rally after rally opposing Prop 8. I wish you would make the GOP get rid of Michael Steele and Rush Limbaugh so Republicans can be electable again.

I wish you were on the side of Faith, Family and Freedom, instead of quietly waiting out your term.

Sincerely,

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Today's letter - instead of one law, now we have three

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Tuesday’s Supreme Court decision about the validity of Proposition 8 made my blood boil. Instead of having just one set of laws governing Californians, we now have three: one for heterosexual marriage, another for gay marriages performed during the Fall of 2008, and a third for Domestic Partnerships.

I hate Prop 8 and you should too – because it makes Government bigger and more intrusive into our daily lives, at great expense when we can ill afford it.

Governor, I wish you would apologize for vetoing AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act that would have legalized gay marriage through the legislature. I wish you would apologize for letting Gavin Newsome and Antonio Villaraigosa stand alone at rally after rally opposing Prop 8. I wish you would make the GOP get rid of Michael Steele and Rush Limbaugh so Republicans can be electable again.

I wish you were on the side of Faith, Family and Freedom, instead of quietly waiting out your term.

Sincerely,

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Today's letter - everybody was there to oppose prop 8, except you

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

My husband, kids and I went to the Repeal Prop 8 rally in West Hollywood last night. The entire West Hollywood City Government was there, the pastor from my Church gave a rousing invocation, Drew Barrymore and George Takei spoke from their hearts, Daniel Choi challenged the military by saying “I am gay” and Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa promised in English and Spanish that Los Angeles would be fighting along with us to get rid of this bad proposition.

Why weren’t you there?

Sincerely,

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Today's letter - the call for gay marriage comes from a place of faith, family and freedom

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

This morning I attended the Prop 8 news conference down here in Los Angeles.

It was held in a part of town I had never been in before, Leimert Park, a predominantly African-American neighborhood just blocks from the Crenshaw Christian Center where Pastor Fred Price Jr. held all of his “yes on 8” rallies.

Our press conference opened with a blessing by two ministers and a rabbi. They spoke so long that they were at the podium to made the announcement that the Supreme Court had upheld Proposition 8, and that a slim majority of voters was all that was necessary to take away their religious freedom to perform marriages.

Governor, I wish you would apologize for vetoing AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act that would have legalized gay marriage through the legislature. I wish you would apologize for letting Gavin Newsome and Antonio Villaraigosa stand alone at rally after rally opposing Prop 8. I wish you would make the GOP get rid of Michael Steele and Rush Limbaugh so Republicans can be electable again.

In short, I wish you were on the side of Faith, Family and Freedom, instead of quietly waiting out your term.

Sincerely,

Monday, May 25, 2009

Today's letter - long lines on Memorial Day

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Happy Memorial Day, Governor. I hope you get a chance to go to the park with your family.

It’s funny – we go to the same schools and parks as our neighbors, we vote in the same elections, we go to the same churches, and at the ball games, we stand in the same lines for hot dogs. Yet when it is time to get married, same-sex couples have to stand in one line, while opposite couples have to stand in a different line.

That doesn’t seem very American to me.

Sincerely,

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Today's letter - after 130 years, will it blend?

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

On Tuesday, the California Supreme Court will rule on the validity of Proposition 8.

In 130 years, our Constitution was thought of as something that gives everybody access to a level playing field. Proposition 8 tests that assumption, and I am very scared that we will see a crack in our foundation.

If the Constitution can be used as a weapon against a few at the whim of the many, instead of protecting every one of us, it protects no one.

Sincerely,

Saturday, May 23, 2009

Today's letter - what causes a change of heart over same-sex marriage? Civil Unions!

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

The New York State Assembly voted on a same-sex marriage bill in 2007 and again in 2009. There were five Members who voted no in 2007 but yes in 2009. What motivated these five people to change their vote?

Their stories seem to fall into two camps. Sandy Galef, a Democrat from Westchester, Tim Gordon, an Independence member from Albany, and Fred Thiele, a Republican from Suffolk County, all changed their votes because of their concerns about civil unions. Assemblymember Thiele said “I thought equal rights could be guaranteed through civil unions... only to find that discrimination persisted in health care and other areas. The only way to ensure equality is by giving all couples access [to marriage.]”

The other two Members, Bob Reilly, a Democrat from Albany/Saratoga and Janet Duprey, a Republican from the Northeast, claim their change of vote sprang from personal conversations they had with constituents. They learned that gay men and women are no different than heterosexual men and women, and want the same things for themselves and their children. Assemblymember Duprey concluded that "United States was founded on the principle of equal protection and rights for all, and I will cast my vote for the constitutional rights of same-sex couples."

It is frustrating to have to wait for Californians to realize what these New York lawmakers have: that denying gay marriage is un-American and un-Christian. I wish you would be more vocal, Governor, about what made you change your mind, and bring some more of the people along with you.

Sincerely,

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Today's letter - Miss California's lesson about sex outside of marriage comes from her own mom, Mr. Terminator Salvation

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Carrie Prejean, Miss California and NOMBLA spokesperson, is once again in the news today. You may recall that Miss Prejean lost the Miss USA crown after she preached “in my country, in my family, I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman.” Well it turns out that, according to ABC News, her mom was dating a woman as recently as two weeks before the Pageant.

I guess in her country, in her family, she believes that gay sex is OK, as long as it isn’t marriage. I don’t know what perverted Bible she is using, but it sure isn’t the same as mine. My Bible says the opposite: that sex is for marriage. Anything else is adultery. And there is nothing wrong with gay marriage.

The only solution that protects everybody’s religious freedom is a Government that respects both of our interpretations. That is easy to do by letting two people who are able to get married, get married to each other. That's the only way that Miss Prejean does not have to get gay-married, and I do not have to get, as Miss. Prejean calls it, opposite-married.

Come on, Governor, with the budget disaster, you’re running out of legacies!

Sincerely,

Today's letter - American Idol Adam Lambert and Kris Allen teaches us about Prop 8 and #saveEarl

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

American Idol’s finale, filmed right here in your home city of Los Angeles, can teach us a lot about politics. This season was a strange déjà-vu kind of upset. Every poll, person and bookie thought that Adam Lambert would win. But he was nosed out against all reason by the straight-acting, straight-looking Kris Allen. Even Mr. Allen admitted that Mr. Lambert deserved to win.

The same thing happened in season 2 when Clay Aiken lost to Ruben something-or-other – the winner was not the better candidate or presumed favorite. And it also happened in 2008 when Proposition 8 was narrowly passed against all predictions and logic.

People in groups do things that, as individuals, they know are stupid.

The difference between Prop 8 and American Idol is that the California Constitution was written to prevent impulsive illogical groups from ganging up against a religion or race. And that Constitution, until it is changed, trumps a popular vote.

I don’t expect the Supreme Court to meddle in American Idol results, but I do hope they fix Proposition 8. An impulsive popular vote is not a fair way to decide fundamental human rights.

Sincerely,

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Today's letter - how "separate but equal" became the law of the land the first time

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

“Separate but Equal” was made the law of the land in 1896 when the U.S. Supreme Court decided the case of Plessy v. Ferguson.

On June 7, 1892, Homer Plessy boarded a car of the East Louisiana Railroad that was designated by Louisiana for use by white patrons only. Although Plessy was one-eighth black and seven-eighths white, under Louisiana state law he was classified as an African-American, and thus required to sit in the "colored" car. When Plessy refused to leave the white car and move to the colored car, he was arrested and jailed.

The case wound its way to the U.S. Supreme Court. In a 7 to 1 decision the Court rejected the view that the law implied any inferiority of blacks, and contended that the law separated the two races as a matter of public policy, not inequity. Justice Brown declared, "We consider the underlying fallacy of the plaintiff's argument to consist in the assumption that the enforced separation of the two races stamps the colored race with a badge of inferiority. If this be so, it is not by reason of anything found in the act, but solely because the colored race chooses to put that construction upon it."

The sole dissenter, Justice John Marshall Harlan, wrote “...in the eye of the law, there is no superior, dominant, ruling class of citizens. There is no caste here. Our Constitution is color-blind, and neither knows nor tolerates classes among citizens. In respect of civil rights, all citizens are equal before the law.” It took until 1954’s Brown v. Board of Education decision to change this law.

Governor, I will be happy if the California Supreme Court upholds Proposition 8 only when it can be demonstrated that a civil union is the same thing as marriage. As a gay dad who has been (and is) both Domestic Partnered and Married, I am quite skeptical that that is ever possible as long as my government allows the distinction to remain. Until then it is apartheid all over again, and that does not turn out well for anybody.

Sincerely,

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Today's letter - hospitals will block gay parents and their children as long as marriage is unstandardized

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Today’s New York Times tells the story of Lisa Pond, who collapsed on a cruise ship and was taken to the ER in Florida. Her Domestic Partner Janice Langbehn and their three adopted kids followed the ambulance. They were denied access to see Lisa for hours despite the fact that all the appropriate medical and legal forms were faxed to the hospital within 30 minutes. Lisa Pond died alone.

This family did everything that they were told to do: they had their lawyers provide partnership agreements, powers of attorney, wills and trusts. But they lacked the one thing that would have allowed Lisa Pound to see her three children and her life partner before she died: the dignity and documentation that only the time-tested legal structure of marriage can provide.

As a gay dad in California, I know how important family is in these kinds of situations. I do not sleep well at night knowing that this kind of family disaster will occur over and over again until every couple is able to access the same institution, full legal marriage.

My kids know I’m married, my parents know I’m married. My Church and congregation know that I’m married. In this kind of situation, the only thing that matters is if my Government considers that I’m married. Or can you assure me otherwise?

Sincerely,

Letter to GOP Chairman Michael Steele - prove it or apologize

Chairman Michael Steele
Republican National Committee
310 First Street
Washington, D. C. 20003

May 19, 2009

Dear Mr. Steele:

On May 16th you told the Georgia State Republican Convention that gay marriage costs small businesses more money than it makes them, because gay marriage laws force them to spend more on health care and other benefits for their gay-married employees than for their gay-unmarried employees.

As a small business owner and a gay dad, I know the facts, and I know that you are lying. I would like to respectfully ask you to prove what you are saying, or apologize for saying it.

You argued "Now all of a sudden I've got someone who wasn't a spouse before, that I had no responsibility for, who is now getting claimed as a spouse that I now have financial responsibility for, So how do I pay for that? Who pays for that? You just cost me money.”

Any small business owner will tell you that we are exempted from state policies that require us to pay different benefits to our married employees than our unmarried employees. In exchange for not discriminating on the basis of marital status, we are protected from having to pay more for married employees than unmarried employees.

Moreover, gay marriage in my state means that I get more business from marriages being performed here, and I have a larger pool of qualified workers to choose from. Massachusetts discovered that five years of same-sex marriage has attracted highly-skilled workers and produced an economic boost of over $110 million - and unlike your assertion, there are real studies that support that.

If you really were concerned about the supposed cost of married employees, you would ban all benefits for married employees, yet you single out the gays to specially deprive them of these benefits.

I am disappointed that you would choose to break the ninth commandment in order to argue that Republicans take a bigger role in the most intimate individual decisions; that my Government should decide who should get married instead my Church; or that fiscal stability depends on whether or not I can get married. And as we saw in the firing of Arabic Linguist Dan Choi because of his sexual orientation, your arguments about the awful gays don’t help national security either.

As a gay dad, I’ve seen your kind of bankrupt arguments before. They are designed to marginalize and dehumanize your neighbors as you advance a moral position at the expense of individual freedom.

Abraham Lincoln pointed out that “those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves.” Jesus said “treat your neighbor as you would like to be treated.” Would you like it if there was a law preventing you and the person that you love from getting married? If so, then I am happy to step aside, but if not, then you are obliged to grant me at least the same freedom that you enjoy.

I know from the Oreo incident that you are in the habit of speculating without proof. I know from your talk radio record your opinion about Civil Unions. I read about your call today for Republicans to stop apologizing. Well, here is your opportunity to answer that call and redeem yourself: prove how my marriage costs anybody anything.

Sincerely,

Monday, May 18, 2009

Today's letter - world's most embarassing argument as GOP leader tries to ban all marriage

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

GOP Chairman Michael Steele told a crowd at the state convention in Atlanta that same-sex marriage is costly for small business.

He explained "Now all of a sudden I've got someone who wasn't a spouse before, that I had no responsibility for, who is now getting claimed as a spouse that I now have financial responsibility for, So how do I pay for that? Who pays for that? You just cost me money."

There are two small problems with this argument. The first is that, if Republicans were actually concerned about the costs of having employees who are married, then they should not stop at gays, they should ban marriage altogether. Then employers wouldn’t have to take financial responsibility for anybody’s spouse. I would like to hear Mr. Steele argue that; anything less is simply hypocritical.

Second, Mr. Steele’s comment ignores the small businesses that make money from gay weddings. After 5 years of extending marriage to gay couples, study after study shows Massachusetts has attracted highly-skilled workers and experienced an economic boost of over $110 million from the very practice Mr. Steele would ban.

It is not same-sex marriage that is costly for small business, it is the ban on gay marriage that is costly for small business.

Please, Governor, please explain to Californians that it is in our best interest for every Californian to be able to fully participate in the economy and society, and please explain to your party leadership the folly of letting somebody as blatantly ignorant as Mr. Steele steer your ship.

Sincerely,
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Sunday, May 17, 2009

Today's letter - People of Faith stand firm in favor of same-sex marriage

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

People of Faith are headed your way, and they’re armed with the clear message that God supports same-sex marriage.

The new partnership between the Human Rights Campaign and California Faith for Equality addresses the Opponents of Equality who use the Bible as a weapon. Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese explains that the new partnership will “ensure that California voters know that many people of faith support same-sex marriage.”

I hope that the Republican party does more than just get the message: I hope that they actually fix their party platform so all Californians can enjoy not only protection of their religious freedom to marry according to their church’s beliefs, but also full participation in the economy and society through legal marriage.

Sincerely,

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Today's letter - you are my sunshine, Governor

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

I wrote a little song for the California Supreme Court to hear when it rules on my marriage. With apologies to former Louisiana State Governor Jimmie Davis, Charles Mitchell and Johnny Cash:

He is my husband, my only husband,
He makes me happy when skies are gray.
You’ll never know how much I love him.
Please don’t take my husband away.


You can call us domestic partners,
You can call us other names,
But no matter what you do, dears,
I love him just the same.

I'll always love him and make him happy,
And he often says the same.
It’s through marriage and only marriage,
he’s bound to love and to stay.

For my parents and my children,
There is only one word that will do:
It is marriage and only marriage.
I hope my Government does come through.

He is my husband, my only husband,
He makes me happy when skies are gray.
You’ll never know how much I love him.
Please don’t take my husband away.

Sincerely,

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Today's letter - Donald Trumps

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Can you do something about this woman who is using the name of California to spread lies about gay people?

You may recall that Miss California Carrie Prejean stated her beliefs about gay marriage during the “brains” part of the Miss USA competition. Then she spoke as Miss USA but without the Pageant's permission in front of crowds opposed to gay marriage, while missing Miss California events she was contractually obligated to attend, constantly complaining about being muzzled and attacked for her beliefs.

Today The Donald rendered his decision on the matter. Who got punished? Co-executive director of the Miss California USA pageant Shanna Moakler, that’s who. Yes, Prejean’s boss got fired for speaking out her beliefs about Miss Prejean’s behavior.

As a gay dad I understand how the Opponents of Equality bully fair-minded Californians into silence by attacking their families. I get hate mail at least once a week. My religious belief in marriage is illegal in California. My Governor belongs to a political party with a platform that calls for my extinction. Why? Because of the hypocritical bullying of people like Miss Prejean, who in the name of California and God pass judgment on me and my family. Because of people like Donald Trump who choose to muzzle the voice of reason rather than the precocious bully. Because of people like you, who tolerate the Opponents of Equality.

I wish you would remind Miss Prejean what she was actually taught: that no good citizen and Christian would deny freedoms to others.

Sincerely,

Today's letter - Pat Robertson's slippery soapbox undermines freedom

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Televangelist Pat Robertson weighed in on the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Law that Maine’s Governor John Baldacci signed earlier this week with the tired “Slippery Slope” argument:

We haven’t taken this to its ultimate conclusion. You got polygamy out there. How can we rule that polygamy is illegal when you say that homosexual marriage is legal? What is it about polygamy that’s different? Well, polygamy was outlawed because it was considered immoral according to biblical standards. But if we take biblical standards away in homosexuality, what about the other? And what about bestiality and ultimately what about child molestation and pedophilia? How can we criminalize these things and at the same time have constitutional amendments allowing same-sex marriage among homosexuals. You mark my words, this is just the beginning in a long downward slide in relation to all the things that we consider to be abhorrent.


Saying marriage is between two people is not a slippery slope. Two people who are worthy of marriage ought to be able to marry each other, without interference from the government.

The real "slippery slope" is certainly not polygamy, but rather it is the next thing that the Opponents of Equality will take away. Will it be divorce? How about the ability to teach science in our schools? Or the freedom to choose our own religion?

As a parent I am much more terrified of what a Robertsonocracy would do to this country: replace what the Bible actually says ("treat others as you would like to be treated") with whatever Robertson says it says. I mean, Governor, do you want Pat Robertson to have more power than you?

Sincerely,

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Today's letter - jury of my peers

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

This is Jury Appreciation Week, which I discovered when I was called in for jury duty.

The jurors on my panel were asked to state the occupation of their spouse or significant other. Most people answered “my husband,” “my wife,” “my fiancée” or “I’m single.”

Thanks to the California Supreme Court I was able to answer the question simply, using the term “my husband.” Everybody knew the nature of my relationship and understood the commitment that I had made.

Because of your 2007 veto of AB 43 (The Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act) and the ensuing Proposition 8, other Californians who were not able to get married during 2007 are denied the opportunity to call their most significant significant other their “husband” or “wife.”

I wish we lived in a state where two adults who are willing and able to marry are not blocked by their government from marrying each other.

Sincerely,

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Today's letter - no marriage, no kids

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Why do the Opponents of Equality say same-sex couples should not marry because they can’t have kids, then try to pass legislation banning them from having kids?

Mike Duke, the CEO of Wal-Mart, the world's largest grocery retailer, signed a petition to put the anti-gay adoption ban on the ballot in Arkansas. Then voters turned that into a law.

California is headed the same way. We already have a government that meddles in my marriage, and a Republican Party Platform that says that Homosexuals should not be able to adopt children.

Governor, I wish you would do more to fix this apartheid of freedom and dignity. California needs every family fully participating in our economy and society.

Sincerely,

Monday, May 11, 2009

Today's letter - new marriage stamps are equal, we should be too

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

The US Postal Service released new postage stamps for the 44¢ rate, the “marriage” stamp shows two rings entwined, just as we understand marriage to be: a contractual relationship between two people.

You say that “Domestic Partnership” is the same as marriage. Well, where is our “Domestic Partnership” stamp?

Please, Governor, stop our government from redefining love. There is nothing wrong with same-sex marriage; there is everything wrong with apartheid.

Sincerely,

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Today's letter - bumper sticker says "I Hate Prop 8"

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Please enjoy this “Repeal Prop 8” bumper sticker. Maybe you can put it on your Hummer?

Sincerely,

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Today's letter - boycotts are an unfortunate outcome of intolerance

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

San Diego Hotelier Doug “Papa” Manchester contributed $125,000 to the Yes on Prop 8 campaign. His three properties have been boycotted by fair minded Californians since July of last year. Guests at the Grand Hyatt are greeted by protesters, and groups seeking a meeting place are successfully warned away. It has been quite effective.

Michael Stetz, a columnist for the San Diego Union-Tribune, reported that Mr. Manchester is irate. He told his CFO “I am now really angry, and I consider this a personal attack on myself and my family.”

I can sympathize, but I have no sympathy. Papa Manchester spent $125,000 to attack me and my family. Now the shoe is on the other foot, right where it belongs.

Governor, this is the inevitable result of wedge politics. Whenever you deny people the ability to participate fully in our society and economy, everybody loses. Please support Harvey Milk Day and the Freedom to Marry, so our business can stay here in California where it belongs.

Sincerely,

Friday, May 8, 2009

Today's letter - Maine is now a Free State

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Maine Governor John Baldacci signed a bill yesterday ending the state’s special exclusion of same-sex couples from their society and economy, stating simply:

I have come to believe that this is a question of fairness and of equal protection under the law, and that a civil union is not equal to civil marriage.
I hope you get a chance to congratulate your fellow Governor Baldacci for this courageous and righteous act.

Sincerely,

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Today's letter - domestic terrorists really hate people

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

The messenger is as important as the message. All those phone calls you get from the Opponents of Equality – the ones who want you to do away same-sex marriage, end domestic partnerships and veto Harvey Milk Day – are being led by some pretty weird folks.

The National Organization for Marriage got a new board member, Orson Scott Card. He says that “[homosexuals] flagrantly violate society's regulation of sexual behavior [and] cannot be permitted to remain as acceptable, equal citizens.”

He also says “marriage has only one definition, and any government that attempts to change it is my mortal enemy. I will act to destroy that government and bring it down, so it can be replaced with a government that will respect and support marriage, and help me raise my children in a society where they will expect to marry in their turn.”

Now I’m sure you have a pretty big “whacko” file on me by now, but I’m the one who just wants you to enforce the Constitution. Orson Scott Card is the one advocating a holocaust and threatening to blow up government buildings. History shows that if you give these people a voice, we will all lose, starting promptly with our freedom.

Sincerely,

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Today's letter - sign SB 572 Harvey Milk Day

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

I want to write to urge you to sign SB 572, the legislation that would create Harvey Milk Day in California.

Harvey Milk fought hard to be treated with the same dignity and respect as his heterosexual counterparts. His winning opened the door to full inclusion of all Californians in the economy and society.

Opponents of Equality will fight against this like they fought against Mr. Milk – with lies and violence. I hope you will join the House and the Senate to recognize what is right, and sign this bill into law.

Sincerely,

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Today's letter - treat Miss California like she treats others

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Well, it took less time than I thought it would for Miss California to demonstrate why Opponents of Equality are ethically bankrupt. Since the pageant where Carrie Prejean announced her beliefs and renounced her crown, it was revealed that:


About the nude pictures, Miss Prejean says “I am a Christian, and I am a model. ... Recently photos taken of me as a teenager have been released. ... But these attacks on me and others who speak in defense of traditional marriage are intolerant and offensive.” Wow, she really doesn’t understand Karma, does she?

I wish you keep this lesson in mind the next time the Opponents of Equality approach you to have you veto a human rights bill. Opponents of Equality, like all Americans, are free to believe what they want, however they are not free to do things that hurt other people.

Sincerely,

Monday, May 4, 2009

Today's letter - Jack Kemp lived and died by the same sword

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

I was saddened to hear of Jack Kemp's death over the weekend. This nine-term Congressman from New York said the usual vile things about gay people that Republicans have been known for, but what differentiated Mr. Kemp was how rumors of his sexual preferences (dalliances would be a better word) were used by his political allies to suppress him.

As background, Mr. Kemp had some logical quirks that made him endearing. He advocated mandatory testing for Americans infected with HIV (which obviously wouldn’t be known without an HIV test, you see.) He also famously stated "I believe in civil liberties for homosexuals, ... I guess I'd have to say I'd draw the line at letting them teach in the schools.”

But perhaps the greatest Catch 22 arose when he tried to run for the 1988 Republican Presidential nomination and again in 1996 when he was Bob Dole’s running mate. Every time he tried to gain a foothold in the Republican party, rumors swirled that he was gay. From an indirect and unfair link to a "homosexual ring" within the Reagan circle, to ownership of a gay ski lodge that was completely unknown to Kemp, no weapon was spared to incriminate Mr. Kemp. The rumors worked all the way up to NBC's "Today" show which spent much time dwelling on the ‘suspicions’ and never properly vindicated him.

Governor, as you face a political future beyond the Governor’s office, I would urge you to begin lopping off the Opponents of Equality as rapidly as possible. History has shown that gay marriage is not an issue of faith but a lever for power, and as long as that weapon exists, it will surely be aimed at you.

Sincerely,

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Today's letter - a mother is a female parent

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

Now that our kids are old enough to celebrate various holidays, the question rises about how to handle Mother’s Day. When a friend asked just that on the patio after Church today, I explained that a mother is a female parent just like a father is a male parent. So on Mother’s Day we celebrate the female parents in our family – two grandmothers and a great-grandmother - and the role they played in our lives.

With no more fanfare than distinguishing between “Latino” and “Latina” or “waiter” and “waitress,” we addressed the issue to everybody’s satisfaction.

I am very happy with this explanation of Mother’s Day. You and I both know that it is wrong to assign genders to pilots, engineers, nurses, doctors and priests, and it is equally wrong to assign genders to caregivers.

Having two words is one thing, having two sets of laws is another. I wish we could just call two parents who are raising their kid “married” like our Church does instead of something qualified by their gender like your Government does.

Sincerely,

Saturday, May 2, 2009

Today's letter - Miley Cyrus has more Jesus in her thumb than One Million Moms have in their whole hive

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

The very curious thing about Twitter is that Twitter is a curious thing. Often, you can only hear one side of the conversation, and are left to your own imagination to fill in the details. For example, I was looking through local Tweets – within five miles of my current location – and noticed one from @mileycyrus:

“love is the lords greatest commandment. i understand the bible just fine!!! :)”

I can imagine the message that inspired that because as an openly Gay Christian I have used that same line several times myself. It took just a few moments of research to uncover the back story. “Hannah Montana” star Miley Cyrus has drawn the ire of the Opponents of Equality for some of her recent Twitter messages to her gay friends:

  • "Everyone deserves to love and be loved and most importantly smile."
  • "Jesus loves you and your partner and wants you to know how much he cares! That's like a daddy not loving his lil boy cuz he's gay and that is wrong and very sad!
  • "Like I said everyone deserves to be happy."
  • "God’s greatest commandment is to love. And judging is not loving."
  • "I am a Christian and I love you - gay or not - because you are no different than anyone else! We are all God's children."

So the Opponents of Equality are showing their love of Jesus by attacking Miley Cyrus for saying that “everyone deserves to be happy.” That is really vile.

I am writing to you about this, Governor, to show how ethically bankrupt this argument is, in the hope that you will prevent these Opponents of Equality from forming public policy based on their so-called religion, to the determent of the dignity and freedom of every Californian.

Sincerely,

Friday, May 1, 2009

Today's letter - Off with her crown!

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger -

The big news this May Day is that Miss California Carrie Prejean has left California to join NOM, the National Organization for Marriage, which despite its name, is actually working its dandiest to block marriages.

My Bible says "suffer not a woman to teach, but to keep her silence." (1 Timothy 2:12) which along with other similar admonishments (1 Corinthians 14:34-35 and 1 Corinthians 11:3) makes it clear Ms. Prejean is a grievous sinner.

Does she have the right to say “marriage should be between a man and a woman?” By her own yardstick, no, she does not. If we are using the Bible as the measure of rights then either I should be able to get married, or she should shut up. "for it is not permitted to them to speak."

I think she needs to have her crown stripped. She has abandoned California and her Special Olympics cause to take away my religious freedom. For that she deserves it not herself.

Sincerely,

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